Insecurities, anyone got them??
This is a subject I felt I should touch on because it is something that has such a powerful hold over us sometimes in life. It can show up in different areas of our lives more so than others. Wherever it shows up, it can really stop us from fully allowing ourselves to enjoy that area of our life. It is like a nasty infection that can take over our minds and changes how we do things, what we think, how we view situations and how we communicate with the people around us. Insecurity has many times over, had me thinking if homeschooling (what God called me to do), is really the right choice for my family, it has had me question how I teach, what I teach, what curriculum I use, what others will think of this decision to homeschool and even if we are doing "enough" compared to the rest of the educational world. In other areas of my life, it has stopped me from meeting new people (if those who know me can believe that), it has stopped me from having more deeper friendships (rather than surface friendships which are safer for me), it has stopped me from loving who I am and how I look, It has stopped me from following through with things I have wanted to do in my life, and the laundry list goes on.
Why am I bringing this up in the midst of this 30 day quest for creating independent thinkers?? Because insecurities can be the main factor holding ourselves back from exactly that.............being an independent thinker ourselves. It has us rely on what others think about what we do, say and think. If we want to begin to REALLY teach our kids how to be independent thinkers, we need to get rid of what is stopping us from becoming this ourselves!
So how do we go about doing this?? I would like to take you all through a little exercise that I myself am going through right now. It will not only help you to identify what insecurities are holding you back in certain areas of your life but will also have you see what is possible in those areas instead and help you come up with a fantastic action plan to free yourself of these insecurities so that you can teach your children how to free themselves of theirs.
Today, I would like whoever is willing, to journal on a few questions to get you started.
1) What behavioral traits signal your insecurities?
2) What happened in your life to make you feel insecure?
3) What are some of your beliefs that account for your insecurities?
4) What are some negative consequences you've experienced due to your insecurities?
Really give yourself some time to think these through. It will help you get to the bottom of what is keeping you from true freedom in your life.
We will continue with part two tomorrow.
Peace in your day!!
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I have learned to use EFT, emotional freedom technique, fairly thoroughly. (See emofree.com for explanation/free manual)
ReplyDeleteI imediately started EFT tapping as I read today's blog. Part of making EFT effective is getting to the root/core/underlying cause emotion and to do that effectively, the right question is very helpful. Filling in a blank works well, helping you focus better on what the answer is.
I would ask myself:
I get insecure when_____ or because______...
These feelings remind me of when______happened...
Also, rating myself on a 1-10 scale, how true is the statement "I feel secure/confident"...and recognizing "tail-enders" like I feel secure/ confident, *but*_____ or *exept when*_____.....
EFT is a wonderful and very effective way to clear and nutralize negative emotions, thinking, "tail-enders", and memories from the past.
I hope this helps someone.
Thank you for bringing this up! It came at the right time! I will definately use this to spring board into some things that have been in the back of my mind for a while.
This is a great link that uses EFT:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHTx9eDVYI&feature=youtube_gdata